Why am I single is a question that behooves you to find an answer to. In this blog post we give you 12 reasons why you’re still a single woman.
Let’s be clear about something. If you’re the woman who says you’re single by choice and that you can get a man at any time, this blog post is not for you.
This blog post is for the woman who is single and does not want to be single. This blog post is for women who want to get a man. This blog post is for women who want serious insight into why they are single and want to improve on the shortcomings they have encountered when it comes to getting a man.
1) YOU’RE SINGLE BECAUSE YOU DON’T LET THE MAN LEAD
One of the reasons why you’re still single is because you don’t let the man lead. It’s a man’s nature to take charge and lead. Therefore it’s conflicting when he’s in a relationship and the woman wants to lead.
The relationship becomes unsustainable when the man can’t do what his nature calls him to do, to lead. If you don’t want to be single anymore the you are going to have to learn to let the man take charge. Let him lead.
Give the man the benefit of the doubt and see how that goes. If you can’t trust him enough to let him lead then you should not be in a relationship with him. A man needs to know that you have the confidence to let him lead you.
If it’s not a dangerous or life threatening situation, let him take the lead even if you think he’s not capable of such a task. He may very well surprise you that he is capable and in the worst case scenario he will see that you trust him.
Also, don’t down him when he leads and things don’t go according to plan. Don’t say things like, “I told you so,” etc. When a man doesn’t hit the target, he knows. You don’t need to call him out on it.
2) YOU WANT AN ALPHA MALE BUT YOU TREAT HIM LIKE A BETA MALE
Many women describe their ideal man as one that is strong, dominant, masculine, that is, alpha. But the reality is they can’t handle an alpha. That is because alpha males resent and will not tolerate condescending, sarcasm, females with masculine energy, etc.
Many women describe their ideal man to be an alpha male, but what their actions say they want is a beta male.
Be certain that what you want is really what you’re asking for. The energy to be compatible with an alpha male versus that of a beta male are a difference of night and day.
3) STOP WITH THE SARCASM AND CONDESCENSION
In the process of discovering why am I still single, this has a lot to do with it. You need to stop with all of the sarcasm and condescending him. If you want to create barriers to forming a relationship with a man then you can continue with the sarcasm and condescending.
However, if you want to build his confidence and have an approachable attitude then you need to stop the sarcasm, etc.
All that the sarcasm does for you is make you look insecure and difficult to deal with. No man is willing, at least for the long term, to seriously engage with a woman who is a queen of sarcasm and condescending.
Practice being polite and complimentary with the man that you are interested in. You will notice a difference that will get you the results that you want. A man.
5) DON’T JUDGE HIM BASED ON YOUR PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIPS
However things turned out in your previous relationship, don’t bring that on him. Don’t use your previous relationship experience as a measuring stick for him.
Sure you learn from your previous relationship and you become more cognizant of when things aren’t going as well as you thought. However, don’t project your previous relationship experience on him, especially the bad ones.
If you catch yourself constantly making comparisons from your previous relationships to him, then you may not be ready to be in a relationship. What you may need is therapy to help you to overcome the previous experiences that are impeding you to look at this new man in the light that he should be looked at.
6) MEN DON’T THINK LIKE WOMEN
A major mistake that women make is that they think they know what men are thinking or how they are thinking. This may come as a shock to you, but most of the time they’re wrong.
Men think very, very differently from women, and that goes for relationships as well. With that said, your best bet is not to assume what a man is thinking but to ask him.
Don’t make the mistake of, for example, thinking that a man will like something because you like it. Or that because you think that’s how something should be that he will think that’s how it should be as well.
If you want to know what a man is thinking, ask him.
7) YOU HAVE TO MAKE CHANGES ONCE YOU’RE IN A RELATIONSHIP
If you want to be in a long lasting and fulfilled relationship then things are going to have to change when you’re in a relationship. You cannot come into a relationship and believe that you are going to keep living life like you were when you were single. That’s not how it works.
If you want to keep living a single life then stay single, right? But if you no longer want to be a single woman then you have to be willing to make certain changes before and during the relationship.
You know what those changes are. They are probably the reason you’re single right now. Make those necessary changes to give yourself and your relationship the best chance of success.
8) KNOW YOUR WORTH BUT DON’T OVERVALUE YOURSELF
It is very important that you know your worth and value yourself. However, don’t overvalue yourself in the sense that you categorize yourself above a group of men that are actually the men you are fit to be dating.
You will want to avoid this pitfall, otherwise you will remain single. Many women are single precisely because they are looking to date men from a certain pool that they don’t qualify for.
Men know that there are a group of women that if they don’t meet certain qualifications, they won’t get them. The same is true for women.
HE MAY NOT BE A HIGH VALUE MAN, BUT ARE YOU A HIGH VALUE WOMAN?
Continuing with the subject of knowing your worth, but don’t overvalue yourself. Too many women are looking for high value men, however, many of them are not high value women. To be honest, many women don’t even know what a high value man is. If they did, they would know that you have to be a high value woman to get one.
Let’s say that you do know a high value man, but do you know what a high value man wants? And can you deliver on it?
Also, do you really want a high value man? That is because high value men have a wide pool of women to pick from. The competition gets fierce, therefore it can come with many challenges.
10) ADVICE FROM OTHER SINGLE WOMEN KEEPS YOU SINGLE
One of the main reasons why you are asking yourself, why am I still single is because you are taking too much advice from other single women.
It’s been said that single women, keep single women single. You need to be mindful who you talk to when it comes to dating. It’s advisable that you limit your consideration of advice from other single women.
We recommend that when it comes to dating advice and relationship advice that you talk to people that have been in long term relationships. They are more likely to give you sound advice than single women.
People who are or have been in relationships may have better advice for you in your journey to leave your single life.
11) STOP TELLING YOURSELF YOU’RE SINGLE BECAUSE YOU WANT TO BE
This is something that many women need to be honest about. That you are not single because you want to be single. You are single because you haven’t been able to get that man that you want.
The first step to potentially getting that man is to recognize that currently you are not able to get that man. Once you recognize that then you can began to make the necessary changes that can potentially get that man to make you his woman.
Remember, you as the woman decide who you have sex with, but it’s the man that decides who he wants to be in a relationship. By recognizing the reasons why your are still single listed in this blog post and making the necessary changes you will increase your odds of that man making you his woman. If he doesn’t, make sure to follow through on reason 12 of why am I still single.
12) IF HE’S NOT MAKING YOU THE ONE, MOVE ON
The final reason why many women are single is because they’re in situations where they are not “official” with a man but they are surrendering all of the benefits of being official.
If you are seeing a man and you are giving him the goods and he is not making you his woman, you need to move on. Take it from us, he probably wants you to move on but you keep lingering around with hopes and expectations that he will make you his woman. If he hasn’t yet, the chances are that he won’t.
CONCLUSION
And as always we like to close with a saying, quote or adage and today’s is from Lala Anthony in regards to woman shooting their shot (video below): I’M VERY CONFIDENT, IF I HAVE TO I WILL (shoot my shot).
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