Sure you may know how to kiss, but now you’re ready to know how to kiss better. Improving your kissing game is not rocket science. In this blog post we explain to you exactly how to kiss better. We outline 7 must know tips to make you a better kisser and with some practice you will absolutely become better than you are now are at kissing.
THE BASICS OF KISSING
First and foremost, your breath needs to always be fresh, and even more so when you’re going to kiss someone.
Don’t come too close to the person with bad breath and certainly don’t try to kiss them with bad breath. No matter how good of a kisser you may be, bad breath will make it an awful experience. So, make sure your breath is on point before, during and after the kiss.
Keep some gum, fresh mints, toothbrush and toothpaste or whatever you need nearby to assure that your breath is on point.
PS: Having moisturized lips is also very important. The person you want to kiss is certainly looking at your lips as you both conversate and they don’t want to kiss lips that are chappy and dry. Keep some chapstick or some type of lip moisturizer nearby.
No one enjoys something that they don’t want to do, right? Right. It’s the same thing with a kiss. Both parties need to want to kiss for the magic of kissing to happen.
If you want to kiss and the other person doesn’t want to, it will create an awkward, unwanted feeling that will culminate in a bad experience. Not to mention, horrible kissing.
But how do you know if the other person wants to kiss or not? Keep reading. We answer this question in must know number 2.
Now, let’s get into the 7 things you must know on how to kiss better.
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1) DO THIS BEFORE THE KISS
Before you kiss the person, that is, throughout the conversation, be making sporadic strong eye contact with the person. Make eye contact of desire. Ways that you can do this is by making deep eye contact with the person and subtlety bite your lips.
This will send waves and signals of attraction to the person you’re talking to. Do this a few times throughout the conversation.
PS: Obviously for this to work there needs to be some chemistry going on. Therefore this can’t be done right at the start of the conversation. This is something that with the right conversation
2) TEST THE WATERS
Before you even attempt to go for the kiss, you need to better understand the person’s level of interest in kissing you. The way you do this is with small flirting gestures.
You need to drop hints of interest in kissing the person and find out if they are interested as well.
Some ways to do this are with subtle physical touch. For example, you may say something to the person and then touch the person’s arm or hand.
Pay attention to how they respond to the touch. Are they resentful? If so, then no kissing attempt should be made, as of yet.
If the person is receptive then keep the conversation going. You can now try different subtle physical gestures. For example, a touch on the legs, touch of the person’s hair, holding their hand, etc.
3) TO ASK OR NOT TO ASK FOR THE KISS
This is a tricky question because there are times where asking for a kiss is recommended and there are times when the sparks are flying so high that you do not need to ask. That’s because it’s clear that you both want to kiss.
With that said, most of the time asking is not what’s warranted. If you’re not sure if the other person wants to kiss you can get a better feel by saying something like, “I’d really love to kiss you right now,” or “Those lips of yours look so good that I’d like to kiss them.”
Now be on the lookout for the response. The answer you’re looking for is in the response.
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4) THE KISS
Now it’s clear that there’s a green light for the kiss and you’re ready to go for it. How do you move in for it? Slowly? Long kiss? Short kiss? Indulgent kiss? Intimate kiss? Pek kiss?
These are all good questions and the answer lies in the environment that you are in.
For example, if you’re out in a conservative setting you a non indulgent kiss may be the best option. But if you’re in a lounge, a more liberal environment, a long and intimate kiss may be perfectly fine. These are things that you need to be mindful of as you discover how to kiss better.
Ultimately, the answer is in the environment and the chemistry that you both are building up before the kiss.
5) DURING THE KISS
You’ve gotten this far and now you’re actually kissing. It’s exciting and you want to make it memorable and enjoyable for the person you’re kissing. Here’s some of the things you can do as you kiss to make it memorable and enjoyable.
- As you and the person kiss, don’t kiss with a closed mouth. Open your mouth and kiss almost as if you’re going to engulf the person you’re kissing. Vary between suckling the person’s upper lip and bottom lip.
- Touch and/or rub the person with your hands as you kiss. This will heighten the sensation of kissing.
- Run your fingers through the person’s hair.
- Keep your eyes closed or keep them open. It can feel intimidating if you both have your eyes open, but why not find out. There’s no wrong way to go about it, we believe.
6) KISS IN OTHER PLACES AS WELL
When you are kissing a person, depending on the level of intimacy and commitment, you do not have to only kiss the lips. There are other kissable parts to kiss. You don’t have to kiss just the lips. This is fundamental in how to kiss better.
Experience kissing on the neck and nibbling on the ears as well. Don’t limit your kissing just to the lips. You can very well start at the lips, but it doesn’t have to stay there.
7) TO TONGUE KISS OR NOT?
You can certainly have a memorable kiss without introducing the tongue, but what if you want to?
Tongue kissing does scream out intimate, desire and attraction loudly. With that said, whether to tongue kiss or not is all dependent on the chemistry of the kiss. You will know whether or not to introduce the tongue based on how the person you are kissing is responding to your kiss.
And if you’re not sure how the person is responding and you want to introduce the tongue, do so gradually. Don’t go shoving your tongue down the person you’re kissing’s mouth at once. Warm up to it and see how the person is reacting to it and go from there.
And as always we like to close with a saying, quote or adage and today’s is: THE BEST KISS IS THE ONE THAT HAS BEEN EXCHANGED A THOUSAND TIMES BETWEEN THE EYES BEFORE IT REACHES THE LIPS.
Now, go forth and change the game!