The dating scene seems to be getting more complicated daily for both men and women. In this blog post we share 15 dating tips for women that will help them improve their chances of success when looking for a man to date and be successful throughout the dating process.
These 15 dating tips will give you the proper guidance in being selective of the man you want to date and help you keep him interested long term.
1) DATE WITH LONG TERM IN MIND
When you’re going on dates, be looking at long term possibilities. Stop looking to date, just to date. Have a long term perspective. With that in mind it will help you to weed out the men that you don’t want to date.
For example, if you have a long term perspective in mind and a man says, “I’m not looking for anything serious” or “I’m just looking to have fun.” Then you’ll know that’s not the person for you.
2) BE HONEST WITH HIM ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT
You have to be honest with the man about what you want. That way he can know and decide for himself if that’s what he wants as well. Don’t beat around the bush about what you’re looking for.
Be upfront and direct with him very early on otherwise you run the risk of him telling you later one, “you never told me this is what you wanted’ or “why didn’t you tell me this before?
3) ASK HIM WHAT HE WANTS
You need to ask him what he wants. That way you can be clear if your intentions and his lineup. If they do, great! If they don’t, you have some decisions to make.
It’s extremely frustrating knowing what you want but not knowing what the other person wants. Eliminate the suspense by asking him. And when he tells you, listen to what he’s saying, not what you wished he said or would have liked for him to say.
4) BE OPEN MINDED TO HIS PERSPECTIVE
Not only are you and a man different sex, but you have different opinions. Some of those differences may be minor and some may be major.
You will have to listen to his perspective with an open mind and consider the possibility that he may have a point in his differences. Don’t automatically jump to conclusions, or dismiss him because of differences. Sure you can be right. But what if he’s right.
Something to think about, right?
5) DON’T GO ON THE DATE IF YOU HAVE NO INTEREST IN HIM
When it comes to dating tips this is a major one. Do not go on a date with a man if you have not interest in him.
Don’t go on a date simply for dinner or the night out in town. By doing so you’re proving yourself to be someone who is taking advantage of a person who is interested in you.
Also, you’ll be leading him on and this can cause trouble for you later because that man can become bitter because he feels that you used him.
With that said, the moral of the story is don’t go on dates with men unless there is some sort of attraction or interest in him to begin with.
6) FEMININE QUALITIES
Most men like a woman who is feminine. Displaying masculine and dominant behavior will most likely only serve to turn him off.
There isn’t a quicker way for a woman to turn off a suitable man than by behaving masculine. You have to leave the masculine energy for the man as he will leave the feminine energy for you
A man wanting a woman to be feminine is the equivalent of you wanting him to behave as a gentleman. Nothing wrong with that, right?
7) DRESS FEMININE
If there is one thing that a man will analyze from a woman is the way she dresses. And when on a date a man wants the woman to dress feminine.
He doesn’t want her to look like one of his male counterparts in jeans, t-shirts, etc. Therefore, when going on a date, put on a dress that screams femininity.
8) DON’T MAKE IT ABOUT YOU
When you’re on date don’t make it about you. Make it about him and he too needs to make it about you.
When it’s done that way it becomes a mutual and reciprocal vibration that will increase the possibilities of a great date.
Don’t put pressure on him like this is your night and he needs to do everything right or else you’re not going to be happy. Men pick up on women like that and are likely to not want to see them again.
However, when you are both showing interest in each other, that’s when the guards come down, conversations flow and the date can have an ending that meets both of your expectations.
9) BE HONEST
It’s very important that you be honest with a man. Be honest about your intentions. Be honest about what you want. Be honest about your expectations of him.
Put it out there so that he knows exactly what you’re looking for. Don’t keep it a secret and then become bitter or resentful because he’s not what you want.
With that said, he has no obligation to live up to all of your expectations. He may not want to. He may be fine with where he is. However, by being honest with him, he at least knows what you want.
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10) SHOW INTEREST IN HIS DREAMS AND GOALS
Number 10 on the list of dating tips is, when you’re out on a date with a man and he shares his goals and dreams with you, don’t blow them off. Show interest by asking him questions.
It makes a man feel unbelievably good to know that a woman is interested in his dreams and supportive of them. Just saying.
With that said, fire away the questions about his dreams and goals.
11) DON’T COMPETE WITH HIM
Remember, it’s a date, not a competition. Don’t be on a date with a man competing with him. You don’t have to pull out your list of accomplishments in an attempt to minimize, outdo or out shine his accomplishments.
When he shares his accomplishments, congratulate him on them and praise him for them. Your opportunity to share yours will come up as well.
He’d do well to congratulate and praise you for your accomplishments as well.
12) AVOID SARCASM
It’s something that some women enjoy doing, but refrain from it. Avoid sarcasm. Mocking a man will for the most part serve no good purpose whether on a date or in a relationship.
It’s much better to choose words of positivity and good energy. Save the sarcasm for a moment when it’s beneficial. Most likely, not on a date.
13) THE DATE DOESN’T HAVE TO BE AT NIGHT OR EXPENSIVE
Ladies, be mindful of where the date takes place and the time. The reason is because if you go out on a date with a man and it’s a dinner date (night) most likely he’s paying for it all. Know that you got what you wanted, time with a man and a paid dinner.
It’s likely that he enjoyed the dinner too and the time at dinner. However, that’s not what really satisfies most men when they go on dates. Men, for the most part, could care less about having dinner and going out. For two reasons, 1) the time it takes to do all of that and 2) their paying.
For a man, his reward for his time and paying for your dinner is sex. And if he doesn’t get it, it’ll likely make him feel like it was a waste of his time.
With that said, if you don’t want him to feel like he is “entitled” sex because of his time and paying for your dinner, do the following. Go out for a coffee or a bagel in the day. It’s a “cheap” date and he will have no sexual expectations in the end. Or at least he shouldn’t.
14) DON’T BAD MOUTH MEN FROM PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIPS
This is an imperative when it comes to dating tips, don’t talk bad about men from previous relationships. This will serve as a red flag to him that if you two were to get serious and things don’t go well that you’d go talking bad about him as well.
If you’re going to bring up men from previous relationships, do so in a neutral, non negative way. Though a rule of thumb is to avoid bringing up previous relationships too early on.
15) SURE HE’S PAYING, BUT YOU DON’T HAVE TO SPLURGE
This is an imperative when it comes to dating tips, don’t talk bad about men from previous relationships. This will serve as a red flag to him that if you two were to get serious and things don’t go well that you’d go talking bad about him as well.
If you’re going to bring up men from previous relationships, do so in a neutral, non negative way. Though a rule of thumb is to avoid bringing up previous relationships too early on.
YOU WENT ON A DATE, NOW WHAT?
You followed the 15 dating tips and the date went well. Now what?
The most common advice would be, don’t call or text him, wait for him to do so. In many cases this may work well. However, in your case, you will need to assess how the date went and see what step you take next.
The next step may be to wait for him to contact you. Or given the nature of the date, you may contact him before he contacts you. The point is what to do next depends greatly on how the date went.
You know inside of you whether to wait for him to reach out or if you should if he doesn’t. You need to execute on that. There’s an internal compass inside of you on what to do next. Listen to it.
CONCLUSION
And as always we like to close with a saying, quote or adage and today’s is from Steve Harvey (video below): MEN KNOW, WE KNOW IF YOU’RE THE ONE OR NOT.
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