If you’ll be honest with yourself, dating may not be the best thing for you right now. Although it’s something we all crave it does not necessarily mean that we should do it, right now.
Some things are not best at this moment, but they may very well be perfect down the road. However, how can you know if right now is a good time for you to date or not? Below we give 7 reasons for when men shouldn’t date.
1) JUST GETTING OUT OF RELATIONSHIP
If you’ve recently ended a relationship, or vice versa, you may not want to go right in to another relationship. Take this time to reflect on previous relationship. Reflect on the things that went well and pinpoint the things that did not go well.
This will help you to improve on the areas of your life that you were not so good at, and for the ones that you were good at, keep doing them.
If you carry unpleasant experiences from the past relationship into a new relationship it will adversely impact the new relationship. Therefore it’s important to take the necessary time to work through such unpleasant relationship experiences.
2) YOU’RE NOT READY
Number 2 on our list of 7 reasons for when men shouldn’t date is that you’re not ready.
As men, we have to be honest with ourselves. And if we’re honest, many of us go into relationships that don’t work out simply because we weren’t ready for a relationship.
Take your time, don’t rush to be in a relationship. Make use of the time that you are a single man to get ready for a relationship. Part of getting ready is being in shape, being mentally strong, positioning yourself well financially, among other reasons.
If you believe that you are not ready to be in a relationship, then do not commit to one. Go into a relationship when you’re ready, not because of pressure from society, peers or a person.
3) YOU’RE OUT OF SHAPE (VERY OUT OF SHAPE)
This may be a tough one for some guys, but you should not be dating when you’re out of shape. If you’re out of shape your bigger priority should be getting into shape.
You need to be more concerned with getting in the gym, doing cardio workouts, etc.
Also, there are many benefits of dating when you’re in shape that include, a broader pool of women that will want to date you, she’ll feel more confident about having you as a boyfriend and presenting you to her family and friends and you’ll be more confident about yourself and you won’t commit to the first women that comes a long because you feel that’s the only choice you have.
Get in the gym or something. Just get in shape before you make yourself available to the dating pool.
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4) YOU’RE CURRENTLY NOT FINANCIALLY STABLE
This is an absolute no no. Do not date if you are “broke.” It’ll most likely only lead to disaster. Women come with expenses whether you like it or not. And if you can’t fulfill those expenses, the chances of that relationship lasting and growing are nearly zero.
Before you put yourself out there in the dating pool, you need to get your finances to a stable point. Remember, dates are not free and you’ll most likely be paying for them. She’ll want to travel, that costs money, even if you’re only paying for you.
She’ll want a man with a car. She’ll want a man with his own place, etc. These and the aforementioned expenses are almost prerequisites to being in a relationship. If you can’t satisfy them, don’t get into a relationship.
Get your financial life in order before you start dating, please! If your finances are not in order, refrain from dating.
Financial stress will only place a strain on the relationship. It’s important to have a stable financial foundation before introducing another person into one’s life via a relationship.
Not being financially stable is absolutely a pillar in the 7 Reasons For When Men Shouldn’t Date.
5) YOU NEED TO FOCUS ON BECOMING THE BEST VERSION OF YOU
You need to focus on becoming the best version of you. Although this is a life long process, you can not go into a relationship until you have become the best version of who you are at where you are in life right now.
Figuring out if you’re the best version of who you right now requires some in depth analysis of self. Ask yourself if you are at your best right now. Ask other men, single and those who are in relationships, to constructively critique if you are a person who seems to be at their best and ready for a relationship.
Take their feedback, analyze it and see if their feedback matches with you intentions on being in a relationship. Ultimately you’ll make the dating decision for yourself, the feedback is simply to help you balance things out in your decision making process.
6) YOU WANT TO DATE FOR THE WRONG REASONS
You’re not ready for a relationship if you have the wrong reasons in mind for dating. Some of those wrong reasons include the need for validation. That is, you want to date so that you can be validated by a significant other.
Pressure is also a wrong reason for dating. The pressure could be coming from society, parents or friends. Don’t cave into dating because of pressure. Date when you’re ready, not because you’re being pressured to.
7) YOU’RE NOT READY TO GIVE UP YOUR SINGLE LIFE
This is a major reason for when a man shouldn’t date. Some men are simply not ready to give up their single life, regardless of their circumstances in life.
When this is the case with a man, then he should absolutely not be dating. If you want to be single, then stay single. Enjoy your singlehood and when you’re ready to date, know that it requires a huge level of commitment and changes to your life and lifestyle.
And as always we like to close with a saying, quote or adage and today’s is: THE BEST PIECE OF DATING ADVICE I RECEIVED IS THIS: IF THEY LIKE YOU, YOU’LL KNOW. IF THEY DON’T, YOU’LL BE CONFUSED. HONESTLY, THAT’S ALL YOU REALLY NEED TO KNOW.
Now, go forth and change the game!