Whether you’re a single woman or a woman in a relationship the question of what do men want from a woman has dawned on you at some point. It’s not a really difficult question, but the answer may be difficult to accept.
It’s not that what men want from a woman is something that is complicated, it’s actually very simple. However, because what women want and what men want are polar opposites, women may complicate the process of what men want because it just seems too simple. And the truth is, it is.
1) PHYSICAL ATTRACTION
It is safe to say that for most men, by far, the most critical thing that they want is a woman in shape. Yes, some men give it more priority than other men do. But a woman who is in great shape will automatically be ahead of the women who is not when it comes to getting and securing a man.
What that means for women is that if you want to successfully increase your odds of getting and keeping a man then you need to get in shape and/or stay in shape.
MEN DIDN’T MAKE THE RULE, IT’S HOW THEY’RE WIRED
Women need to know that we men did not make the rule of a woman being in her best shape to give her the best chances of her getting the man she wants. It’s simply how we’re wired. Physical appearance is a big, big deal for men.
Now, you have two options. You can either not take what men want into consideration and choose not to get in your best shape or you can take heed of the advice and get in your best shape.
For a woman she will notice an unequivocal difference in attention and the type of men that will court her once she gets in her best shape.
DON’T RESENT THIS ADVICE
Women, don’t dismiss this advice, especially if you’re not in shape. I know it’s much easier for you to say, “If he loves me he’ll take me as I am.” That may very well be the case with some men. However, you are most likely not going to get the man you want if you are out of shape.
MANY WOMEN WORRY ABOUT EVERYTHING EXCEPT THIS
For us men it’s baffling that many women are concerned with every little aspect of their appearance, except their weight.
Many women spend countless money a year on their nails, eyebrows, lashes, make up, etc, but they will not invest in a gym membership and stick to it.
Take it from us at Change The Game TV, when it comes to what do men want from women, your weight is of primary concern to men. Now, you can resent the advice and try go at getting what you want from a man while not being in your best shape. You may get it. But the odds are heavily against you. No pun intended.
Get in shape, that will help you to get that man and keep him.
DON’T TRY TO BEAT THEM, JOIN THEM
There are women who have discovered this open “secret” that men want a woman in shape therefore they get in shape and stay in shape.
Don’t try to beat those women, join them. Join them on the tracks. Join them in the gym. Join them on a jog. Join them. Join them.
2) AGE MATTERS TO MEN
Women, you need to know that age matters to men, to most men. Generally speaking, older men pursue younger women. Therefore, if you’re of an older age or even the equal age of an older man, know that can be a challenge for you.
What that means for women is that while you’re younger, twenties, you need to be in pursuit of the man that you want. If you wait until you get older, the men you want will likely no longer want you because they want a younger woman.
DON’T SQUANDER YOUR YOUTH
Therefore, women, it’s important that you don’t spend your youth years getting “lit” and kicking the can of relationships down the road, that is, into your thirties to mid thirties and beyond. By then, your odds of getting chosen by a man for a lifetime commitment are less.
A man generally wants a woman that he can partake of in her younger years and in her older years as well. Therefore the lesson is, don’t keep pushing the decision of committing to a relationship down the road. If you do, you may regret it. Or even more concerning, you may just end up all alone because what’s available is not what you want.
3) DO YOU HAVE CHILDREN? IT MATTERS TOO
Whether you have children or not weighs heavily when it comes to what do men want from a woman. And it’s not because having children disqualifies you from having the man that you want, though it could.
We say that because there are men who do want women who have children. For example, if he’s a man that has children, he may very well be okay with you having children. That’s because you both have your children and now you can both decide whether you want to have children together or not. If you both decide not to have children that will be fine and if you decide to that will be fine as well.
There’s a big however when it comes to if the woman already has children and he doesn’t. That’s because many men who don’t have children don’t want their potential children’s mother to have children that are not his.
The summary is, if you have children and he doesn’t, your odds of that man making you his woman are less.
Therefore, keep that in mind as you make your decision on when and with whom you want to have children with.
4) MEN WANT FEMININITY
Men want femininity and that’s no secret. Men are attracted to women with feminine qualities. When a man is seriously looking for a woman to make a lifetime commitment the question of femininity is a big one.
A man does not want a woman who exerts masculine energy. That’s his job, to be masculine, not yours. Think about it, how favorably would you look up to your man if he behaved feminine. It’s the same thing.
As far as what do men want from a woman, femininity is crucial.
He wants you to be feminine in the way you carry yourself, in the way you dress, in the way you talk, etc. Men are the aggressors with the dominant energy. If you have that same energy towards him, it won’t work.
You may say that you are dominant only in a work environment, etc, and that you can turn it off at home and let him lead. Well, make sure you do, because otherwise the relationship won’t go well for too long.
THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS
If you want to be a lifetime commitment with a man and you have dominant and masculine energy and you don’t want to change, then you need to find a man that accepts that. However, be aware, most men don’t. An alpha male, by trait, will never accept that.
Men are wired to lead the home and to be the head of the household.
Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment is a New York Times best seller by Steve Harvey With over two million copies sold. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man has become a bestseller around the world.
It’s a realistic examination of how men think about love and sex and what women need to know so that they can set realistic expectations of the men in their life.
5) MEN WANT SEX
Sure you want sex, too. Men want sex too, but much more than you think.
Women need to know that when it comes to what do men want from a woman, sex is a major thing.
At any given moment, men are most likely thinking of two things. Money, how to make money or more money and the second thing is sex.
Therefore getting and keeping a man involves sex. This is not the article on when to have sex with him but it’s something that is of significant importance to men and therefore it’s being highlighted.
DON’T WEAPONIZE LOVE MAKING
And when it comes to sex, women, don’t be one to weaponize it. That is, you make sex a weapon to get what you want from him or punish him by not letting him have sex with you.
Again, this is not the article on when to have sex with a man. We leave that up to your discretion and personal beliefs. We are simply stating that men want sex from their woman and that you should not weaponize sex.
It’s not that there are no other factors that men consider when it comes to deciding on what woman they want, but these are some of the primary ones.
And as always we like to close with a saying, quote or adage and today’s is from Steve Harvey (video below): MEN KNOW IF YOU THE ONE OR IF YOU NOT. ALL YOU GOTTA DO IS ASK HIM POINT BLANK. BUT THE PROBLEM IS WOMEN HAVE A FEAR OF ASKING. BECAUSE THEY DON’T WANNA KNOW THE TRUTH.
Now, go forth and change the game!